Find Out What Your Sex Position Says About You 1. The missionary man 2..
We all like to get experimental in the bedroom. Here's our expert decoding what your favourite position says about you
A look at the choice of manoeuvres between the sheets is a great tell-tale sign about personality traits, preferences and quirks in an individual. Sex therapist and counsellor Simran Chaddha decodes favourite positions and uses them to read into that kinky personality. Here is what your favourite position says about you:
The missionary man
Don't dismiss him as jaded or boring. There is a lot to be said about stability, tenderness and someone who likes to colour within the lines. The body language is devoted towards you and it's all about looking at you. He maintains eye contact while sharing one of the most intimate experiences one can have. It's a sign of loyalty and dependability. It could also be a sign of borderline performance anxiety where he wants to constantly be reassured that he's doing okay by reading your expressions and moves. There is no harm in shaking things up once in a while, so make sure you encourage him to do so.
Doggy style
As much fun as this is for the man, it sends out a fairly strong message to his partner. While she may not particularly dislike it, busting this move over and over will eventually distance you from her. The position hands over controls entirely to the man, leaving the woman literally at his mercy. A kinky move for couples, no doubt, it doesn't exactly scream, 'I love and respect you.' A fixation towards this move stems from deep-rooted insecurity and confidence issues. The body language is distant, there is no eye contact and expresses a desire to control and feel 'alpha male.' He's a stud more than a metrosexual. On the plus side, he's open for adventure and will do anything that adds stars to his sexual escapades. Once in a while, it's fun, but if you find yourself veering towards wanting to show her who's the boss constantly, maybe its time you access your relationship quotient with your partner.
A lazy lover isn't exactly a flattering term. If you've heard that before, it's time to learn some new moves. With the woman on top, it's a telling sign of a man who has had it easy in life, is arrogant and as the name suggests, Lazy. He wants things handed to him on a silver platter, including a girl who'll do all the hard work. There is a deeper strain of lack of motivation and ambition that runs through here.
However, when used in combination with other more inclusive positions, this is a good indicator for playfulness and someone who doesn't mind handing over the controls once in a while. It is a position that works wonders for the woman and a loving man may encourage it for her optimum pleasure. So if it's one of his top fives, you have nothing to worry about, he likes showing you a good time. But if it's his staple move, it's time he gets off his back.
The spooner
Women cry hoarse looking for someone who'll spoon them. While it takes a confident man to spoon and caress a woman he loves, it is also an indicator for a possessive personality. In this dominant position, his entire body envelopes hers and he is literally all over her. He likes to claim territory and mark flags all over it. If, on the other hand, he likes to be spooned instead (you'll be surprised at the number of men who like it after the act), it indicates a needy personality that wants to be taken care of. There are signs of low self-esteem.
Like in all relationships, one goes through phases of emotional highs and lows, which can manifest themselves in the sexual flavour of the month. So it's important that one doesn't take these as a rule of law and leaves room to accommodate for an evolutionary process all couples go through.
